My loneliness is unhealthy. It causes me to want more than what I have or even need, and it causes me to compare myself to people non stop who do have what I do not.
I wish my closet was hanging with the kind of clothes I see all my old friends from school wearing in their instagram photos. How much easier it would be to get dressed in the morning and feel good about myself if I have more than just a couple of polo shirts and two pairs of jeans to choose from every day. And I could go on and on about how much easier my life would be if I had cute clothes, but at the end of the day I would still be lonely and find something else I might ‘need’ to make my life easier.
What would really make my life easier is if my husband didn’t work 6 days a week. Or even if he did work all those days, if he could just come home a little earlier in the day instead of right before I put the baby down for the night after a long day of chasing him around by myself, that would be nice. It’s still something I can’t change or have control over and that’s where I get trapped in all of my negative thoughts.
Just because I can’t change something or get what I want doesn’t mean that I have a bad life. Because if I take a step back and actually look at my life for what it is I see that I don’t even need nice clothes being a stay at home mom most of the time, shorts and a t-shirt are way more suitable for this phase of my life right now. I can also see that I have a loving husband who works a lot harder than most men his age. And even though he can’t be home with us as much as I want him to be, he tries his hardest to make the most of it and remind me that things won’t be this way forever.
I just want to find peace in this season of solitude in my life rather that let it make me feel lonely. Because I’m not actually alone at all. I’m surrounded by two people who love me more than anything and right outside of that we have my husband’s family who has taken me in as their own and love me more than I even deserve sometimes.
So from now on I am going to try my hardest to consume positive thoughts. I have a lot of work to do on myself and in my marriage and if I keep letting the negative consume me I’m not gonna get very much closer to where I want to be.
First, my life needs to be based more on God. When I get weak He can remind me that I don’t need a lot of clothes hanging in my closet to feel beautiful, being a loving wife and mother is beautiful in itself and a lot of people would love to be living this life I have. Being alone shouldn’t be scary because I will have more time to focus on my relationship with God and hopefully grow a lot more in Him than I have in years.
The funny thing is, this past year I’ve never stopped to wonder why God has put me in this ‘lonely’ state, I’ve just been begging Him to change it. I think one day He will change it, but right now this is where I need to be to grow my relationship with God that I have been continually putting on the back burner. I can’t wait to see how it turns me into the person God wants me to be.